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Nobody fancies someone who's never been anywhere

Dinner and a film. Again. Here's a better idea, and it costs nothing: a ruin at sunset, with nobody else there.

By Rickie · Discover Alone
Kilcrea Friary, County Cork. Picture: Wikimedia Commons

The usual

Restaurant, film, a drink after. Fine. Forgettable. And not cheap.

Nobody ever told their friends about the time they went to the cinema.

The better one

Pick an old abbey, a castle on a hill, a fort with a view. Go an hour before the sun goes down. Bring a flask and something to eat.

No queue, no bill, no other people. Just the two of you and a place that's stood there for five hundred years.

It says something about you

Bringing someone to a place they've never heard of, that's two miles from where they grew up, tells them more about you than any menu.

Nobody fancies someone who's never been anywhere.

Find one tonight

Open the map, look for the old abbeys and castles near you, and pick the one with the best view.

And if it goes well, you've a whole map of second dates.

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